In most films and TV shows, women are represented as the 'inferior' gender who need a male partner in order to feel complete. It saddens me that girls grow up feeling that their life long mission is to find their version of prince charming, get married and have children. I feel like in my blog posts I'm always trying to defy stereotypes and expectations - my sole reason for this being that I really do wish I had someone telling me these kinds of things when I was younger ... as I really do think that they would've helped me in the long run.

I know people who have this irrational fear of ending up alone - unmarried with no children. Now obviously, I (hopefully) have many years left of my life and I don't know how anything is going to pan out, but ending up alone isn't something that particularly bothers me. Sometimes it takes a lot for you to realise what's actually important, but once you do there really is no going back. The most important people in my life are my friends and family, and I know that as long as I have them by my side then I can never truly be alone. 

But this phrase 'girl power', to me, isn't just about feeling independent and confident by yourself, it's also about respecting others too ... in particular, girls. I scroll through various social media sites, and one think I've picked up on recently is how blooming nasty girls can be to one another. Whether it's in the form of subtle indirects, or sometimes screenshots whereby they're publicly humiliating one another - it seems to be everywhere I look. 

It saddens me to see females picking on one another, especially when it seems to revolve around the way they look - and thereby making a mockery of it. Most of the time it seems to be centred around makeup, and the way someone has applied a specific look onto their face. I'm not going to lie, when I see things like this it just completely baffles me - makeup is considered as an art, and a form of expression that is personal to how that individual is feeling on that specific day, so I struggle to understand how and why people feel the need to comment on that.

I'm pretty sure that most females on this planet have had struggles about their appearance before, yet you would think that this piece of common knowledge would stop people from thinking it's acceptable to tear down others about the way that they look? For some unexplainable reason, it doesn't.

Obviously, I'm not going to sit here and pretend like I'm not guilty of doing this too. I've walked past people before, and raised an eyebrow or even said a comment in a judgemental manner - let's be honest, I think we're all guilty of this. I truly wish I wasn't, and I am definitely working on this. (this could be another New Years Resolution??). I know for a fact that the world would be a much more beautiful place if we all embraced and accepted one another, regardless of the way we look.

For those of you who have been reading my blog for a while, you will know that I like to focus on positivity and happiness - they're pretty much the main 'ingredients' which go into my blog posts. I know for a fact that I always feel truly happy when I'm surrounded by my 'girliessssss'. There's something so fulfilling about being surrounded by a bunch of girls who support and respect each other, and also who can bring you back down to Earth if you start to get a bit ahead of yourself. I'm obviously not going to start writing examples, but there has definitely been some funny moments (;) ).

Now for the other significant females in my life, I feel like you need a mention too. I come from a family of extremely strong and independent women, and I'm super lucky that I have grown up in an environment which isn't solely patriarchal. (Imagine how I would've ended up, haha). My mum, my nana's and my sister all inspire me to stand on my own two feet, and empower me to be the best version of myself I possibly can.

I also find masses upon masses of 'girl power' inspiration from people who are in the public eye. Of course, there's your obvious candidates like The Spice Girls, but someone who I particularly wanted to talk about was one of my blogging idols, Megan Ellaby. (Google her, she's fabulous!). She's one of those people who I really do look up to in terms of this blogging malarky, as she has achieved so so much. Both her and her sister Faye (I'm aware I sound like the biggest stalker right now) both have such unique and quirky styles, and I truly admire them so much. Both the way they dress and present themselves is the epitome of girl power and, in all honesty, I'm just obsessed!

Of course, Sherlock Season 4 started on Sunday and since I'm currently up to my third time watching that FANTASTIC episode, I just had to mention it. Amanda Abbington, or Mary Watson, is someone who I deeply admire. Although the episode broke my heart into a million pieces (I'm not going to give any spoiler but PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE watch it. PLEASE), it also reminded me of what a, how to I put this(??), 'bad ass bitch' she is. She completely defies all stereotypes and conventions of a female role in a hit TV detective series, and it's definitely one of the many reasons why I am so obsessed with that show (alongside the obvious reason ... Cumberbatch ;) )

I wish I could sit and ramble on about Louise Brealey too, but I think I'll save that for another post ... this one is already pretty long!

So, I guess there it is. I could definitely write about 'Girl Power' for an eternity, but the looming of A Level work to catch up on is massively playing on my conscience.

See you next week!

Grace x


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